Frustrations in Marriage

Frustrations in Marriage

“Yes, there are frustrations in marriage. A successful life means you creatively adapt to your reality and turn every frustration into a challenge to be dealt with. You can adapt to, and grow from, your current reality. Or you can continue to suffer and remain...
Curing an Obsession with Food

Curing an Obsession with Food

Reading Time: 4 minutes Every time I see a new patient come into my office with a food obsession, I am reminded of how durable the obsession is, and how difficult it is for the person to see what is really going on. From a therapist’s perspective, what I am...
How Can I Motivate Myself?

How Can I Motivate Myself?

Reading Time: 2 minutes Dear Dr. Gould, I have carried an extra 10 lbs of weight most of my adult life. It’s hard to reduce my meal size. Somehow, my mind reasons that, if my life is interesting enough I’ll eat less. Yet, no matter how interesting my life...
Emotional Eating Triggers

Emotional Eating Triggers

“Emotional eating triggers are usually based on a need to soothe emotional pain. Perhaps, then, the next time we see someone overweight, or don’t like what we see in the mirror, instead of saying, “There’s a person who eats too much,” we...
The Origin of Your Guilt

The Origin of Your Guilt

Reading Time: 3 minutes A patient came in to see me the other day who I hadn’t seen for three months. She was doing well and in the final stage of being “cured” of her food obsession. However, in the three days just before her appointment, she had a...
I Just Can’t Stick to My Diet

I Just Can’t Stick to My Diet

Reading Time: 2 minutes Dear Dr. Gould, I just can’t stick to my diet. I even buy totally unsuitable food. I do all the ShrinkYourself exercises and just feel that I’m a really hopeless case. When I started a month ago, I had an aim to be a reasonable...
Being Overly Judgemental

Being Overly Judgemental

“Since being overly judgmental is not limited to yourself, you can practice not judging others first, then start to apply it to yourself. This is something everyone can try and benefit from.”Dr. Roger Gould...
How to Be Cured of Your Food Obsession

How to Be Cured of Your Food Obsession

Reading Time: 2 minutes “I feel like I’ve had a head transplant. My cravings are gone, my obsession with food and weight—which I have had for over thirty years—is gone. I have such mental clarity now, I can’t believe the fog I have been living in all these...
Can I Just Give up the Fight and Stay Obese?

Can I Just Give up the Fight and Stay Obese?

Reading Time: 2 minutes Dear Dr. Gould, I took the full 12-week ShrinkYourself Program, but lost focus as I always do in weight management efforts. When something is brand new, I feel excited. Shortly thereafter, I have trouble concentrating and forget most of what I...
Healing the Emotional Eating That Began in Childhood

Healing the Emotional Eating That Began in Childhood

“Being able to see yourself as a child who had no possible way of emotionally coping with trauma is the beginning of healing, and the beginning of a life free from the emotional eating that began in childhood.”Dr. Roger Gould...